So what does it mean?
And I think this pattern sticks. The archetypes about “the outsider” and “the loner” usually paint them as eccentric and strange and unwilling to conform to the normal rules about things.
So how do we make sense of this discrepancy? This strange avoidance of being alone versus these great minds extolling the benefits of solitude?
In aid of this idea, I think it’s healthy for all of us to have a little time to get to know ourselves a little better. To sit with being alone and listen to our own intuition and hearts for a while. Sometimes this makes us suspect. But so what? Elizabeth Gilbert says it wonderfully in her book Eat Pray Love, “When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”
It’s wonderful advice.
And in memory of Wayne Dyer I’m going on a hike this weekend. Nothing fancy. Just a little trip to the beach to read, and think (and okay maybe some wine), and come down a little from a week spent talking to people all day every day.
And yes, I’ll be on my own.
But I’m learning to enjoy the company…